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"Have been a very very very bad girl haven't I?!"

Excerpt of a recent email from my latest squeeze, and she really has been a very very very naughty girl...

Beautiful!

The first time I shared a girlfriend.

My next girlfriend was very liberal, she looked a little like a sex pistols groupie.  We were both still teenagers and I told her about my fantasies fairly early on in the relationship, without any reserve, and asked her which of my friends she would most like to fuck if she were to go ahead with it.  There was one of my friends in particular that she found most attractive and admitted that on the night we had first met, she had considered going home with this friend before I got chatting with her.  We were at her fathers empty house one weekend and invited a couple of friends over for drinks, of course one of the friends was the one she said she would fuck and she had already said that she was interested in something happening between the three of us.  The night progressed with a lot of alcohol, as the three of us were bent over and looking in the drinks cabinet for more alcohol, I lifted up my girlfriends skirt so my friend could see her naked ass underneath, my girlfriend giggled...

Later in the night my girlfriend went off to bed, I went up with her, fucked her and came back down to sit with my friends.  While we had sex I asked her is she was interested in having sex with my friend and she said that she was.  When I went back down with my friends I was drunk enough to tell my friend that my girlfriend would like to have sex with him if he was interested.  At first he laughed it off, but then when he was convinced that I was serious he admitted that he had always been attracted to her and would definitely like to fuck her. 

Later in the evening, my girlfriend recovered from her late siesta and came back down sit with us, I don't recall what I said to her as I was very drunk and it was a long time ago but I let her know that my friend was interested in having some fun with her and suggested that she start by sucking his cock, she proceeded to suck him and then me, all in front of the other friend, who was encouraged to join in , but refused to while pretending to read a newspaper, making sly glances over the top of the paper.

At some point we all went up to the bedroom, the other friend went into a room on his own while the three of us went into the other bedroom,  I don't recall all of the events because we were all very drunk, but I remember initially leaving the room to go to the toilet on the pretext of giving them some time alone together.  When I came back in they had their clothes off and he was finger fucking her hard.  We all rolled around on the bed,  she sucked his cock, nobody came and my friend went alone into the spare room, but later in the evening I convinced her to go into his room and suck his cock, she said she would only do this if he said he wanted her too, so I went into his room and asked him, he said no that it was ok, I came back and told her that he replied in the positive, she left our bed and went in to suck his cock.  She told me later that he got rock hard immediately and pushed her head down onto his cock forcing her to suck him deeper, after a few minutes he said that they should join me in order that I not be left out. We resumed our threesome and at one point he bent her over and fucked her from behind for a few minutes, before I became so turned on that I took over and started fucking her instead.

The next morning I tried to get my friend back into our room so that my girlfriend could give him a morning blowjob, but he was too shy to do this and left the house early to go back home.   I felt excited by what happened but also had to deal with other mixed emotions and also the thought that my girlfriend and I had done something that we could not undo and that perhaps it was a mistake.  I also had other feelings of wanting to be closer to my girlfriend, the need to do something to cement our relationship even further.

Given time these thoughts retreated and I was only left with a feeling of excitement that one of my friends had fucked my girlfriend and the wish to repeat the experience, but to better the previous time, I didn't want to be as drunk and I wanted him to fuck her for more than just a few minutes.

How I got started on this path

I had a girlfriend when I was a teenager that had been quite promiscuous prior to meeting me, giving oral sex to various men.  We dated for around five months and she would be very indiscreet, bragging about her past experiences...  How she had sucked a guys cock at a train station, others she had left parties with and given oral sex to outside, let them go down on her etc etc.  At first I was extremely jealous, angry, I hated the thought of my girlfriend being slutty and doing these things with other guys, especially given that she barely even knew most of them...

I had a porno at the time starring Jenna Jameson there was a scene of her giving a guy a blow job outside in a car park, she unzipped his jeans, without taking them off, and expertly sucked his cock.  Jenna Jameson was tanned and with bleached blonde hair like my girlfriend of the time,  seeing her suck cock from behind, watching her peroxide head bobbing up and down, it didn't take a huge leap of the imagination for me to imagine that this was my girlfriend.  I think my mind made the connection involuntarily, and guess what?  I was turned on imagining that imagining that I was watching my girlfriend sucking off the guy in the movie.  I don't recall being shocked in anyway by this discovery, but I revisited the scene many times, imagining that it was her instead of Jenna Jameson.

Now this girlfriend also had incredible oral skills, probably better than any other girl I have been with since.  She would wrap her hands around your ass and suck your cock so well you thought you were in heaven, she constantly varied her technique and would suck me for as long as I wanted, I'm sure at times she must have been sucking my cock for the best part of an hour.  As she would do this I started thinking of how she had done this to guys she had only just met, imagining what it would have looked like, thinking how slutty she was.  I started talking dirty to her more and more about these thoughts while she was sucking me; asking her why she was so good at it?  That it must be because of all the strangers cocked she had sucked before.  Asking if she liked sucking strangers cocks.  I started calling her a slut, at first she was shocked at this, but then when I asked her about it after she said it was ok because "it made her heart beat faster".

I would ask her to recount every one of her previous exploits to me while she gave me  hand-jobs, telling me about exactly what happened in detail, I no longer felt any jealousy about hearing her tales, just excitement.  She sucked one guys cock in a train station why her friends waited around the corner telling her to hurry up, she left a party with another guy and sucked him while he sat on a wall, she took another back to her place and sucked him while he slapped her ass and called her a bitch.

We broke up before these fantasies progressed any further, if we had stayed together a little longer I'm sure I would have asked her if she was interested in sleeping with other guys, never the less, a seed had been planted...

Recommended reading:

Another great blogger!

I keep making some great discoveries recently, it's fantastic to see the circle of Hotwife sites expanding so much!

http://hotwifeava.wordpress.com/

Upskirt, hotwife...

naughty girl

Great new cuckold sites!

Well I've recently discovered two great new hotwife sites, one is www.jinxypie.com she is a cuckoldress from the states and there are also some great video tutorials her on her blog.   The other is www.hotwifelife.com a forum for the Hotwife community run by Frizzo and Hotlegs another couple who like to indulge in the hotwife lifestyle.  They also have a blog called www.hotlegsfrizzo.com which is incredibly hot, they post some great videos of their adventures, the most recent has Hotlegs fucking one of her latest studs, and... it's very hot!

Both of these girls are young and sexy and great hotwives, I highly recommend these sites! :)

My kind of girl...

and this one...

woman with two men

I adore this image...

To hell with monogamy

Cock slap

Matthias Vriens photo

Hans Bellmer

Insatiable wives book

A new book about hotwives; Women who stray and the men who love them, David J Ley. I haven't read this yet but it is on my reading list. Have others read this? what are their thoughts?

Review, (Oct.) --Publisher's Weekly October 5, 2009:

Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them Clinical psychologist Ley forges into new territory to examine the long-lived, but little-known "hotwife phenomenon." In extensive interviews with couples, Ley discovers educated, successful individuals with strong, healthy marriages in which wives are allowed, and expected, to sleep with other men. These couples demonstrate high degrees of communication and mutual respect while also asserting that the lifestyle, initiated by the wives, has strengthened their marriages. Interviews lead Ley to track the origins of monogamy and the reasons why "female sexuality was constrained in our society and history," including analysis of the term "cuckoldry," the evolution of laws designed to protect the family, and the Madonna/whore dichotomy, alongside the medical and societal costs of keeping women under sexual lock-and-key. Well-written and thoroughly researched, Ley's survey of an evolving marriage lifestyle highlights qualities vital to any relationship, especially honest and consistent communication.

http://www.amazon.com/Insatiable-Wives-Women-Stray-Love/dp/1442200308/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280317486&sr=8-1

History of the term Cuckold

           Cuckold is derived from the Old French for the cuckoo, cucu, with the pejorative suffix -old. The earliest written use of the Middle English derivation, cokewold, occurs in 1250, written by Jesse Conklin^[1]. The females of certain varieties of cuckoo lay their eggs in other bird’s nests, freeing themselves from the need to nurture the eggs to hatching. The female equivalentcuckquean first appears in English literature in 1562, adding a female suffix to the "cuck"; Wittol, which substitutes "wete" (meaning witting or knowing) for the first part of the word, first appears in 1520.
Cuckolds have sometimes been written as "wearing the horns of a cuckold" or just "wearing the horns". This refers to the fact that the man being cuckolded is the last to know of his wife's infidelity. He is wearing horns that can be seen by everybody but him. This also refers to a tradition claiming that in villages of unknown European location, the community would gather to collectively humiliate a man whose wife gives birth to a child recognizably not his own. According to this legend, a parade was held in which the hapless husband is forced to wear antlers on his head as a symbol of his wife's infidelity. Whether or not this actually happened is unknown but the phrase has survived (also see the Italian insult cornuto). 
  In many countries "horns" are a metaphor for suffering the infidelity of a partner, not limited to husbands in modern usage. The gesture of the horned hand can be used to insult the cuckold.            

Another fantastic Serge Birault picture:

Theories in evolutionary psychology

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold

What are your thoughts?

Wikipedia has a pretty good overview of the Hotwife and Cuckold lifestyle and also some interesting theories about some of the biological reasons that could drive these fantasies:

Theories in evolutionary psychology

In his book Sperm Wars, Robin Baker speculated that the excitement and stimulation of the cuckolding fetish emerges from the biology of sexuality and the effects of sexual arousal on the brain. According to his theory, when a male believes that his female mate may have been sexual with another male, the male mate is prompted by biological urges to copulate with the female, in an effort to "compete" with the other males' sperm. The effects of sperm competition are well documented.^[6] Further, when initiating sex, the male mate thrusts harder, deeper and longer, in efforts to remove the sperm of the other male, and is biologically driven to have sex multiple times. While he may be unable to have sex more than once under usual circumstances, the cuckolded male is prone to repeated sexual efforts. Meanwhile, the wife enjoys greater sexual stimulation, first by her other male lover and second by her cuckolded husband. In addition, the wife enjoys the neurochemical "highs" triggered by entering into a romantic or physical relationship with another lover. These highs include the effects ofoxytocin and other neurochemicals which trigger excitement, euphoria and other feelings common to the beginnings of romantic relationships. These neurochemicals change over time, and as a relationship persists, with neurochemicals changing to ones that promote bonding, planning and nurturing. When a wife takes a new lover, she triggers the neurochemicals of a new relationship, bringing home excitement to her husband.^[7]

The above exposition is contraindicated by the hypothesized foundations for jealousy in evolutionary psychology, which is rooted in the idea that men specifically will react jealously to sexual infidelity on the parts of their mates ^[8]. Far more often than being sexually aroused, extreme and enduring anger to the point of committing a crime of passion is documented by partners finding their spouse's infidelity. These crimes even lead to the social and legal permissibility inherent in the concept of a crime of passion, whereby culpability and legal punishment is reduced, sometimes even anulled entirely, due to the extenuating circumstances of what is construed as a natural response to an outraging stimulus. The popularity of the cuckold fetish actually calls into question the universality of this evolutionary interpretation and theory, suggesting that differential responses to jealousy are possible, and perhaps even adaptive. One theory suggests that some men may accept a Hobbsian bargain, accepting that their wives will be unfaithful, in order for a lesser male to secure a female mate of higher evolutionary value than he could have, if he required and enforced sexual fidelity.^[9]

Hotwife scene from the movie Crash

One of my all time favourite Hotwife scenes from a mainstream(ish) movie. I particularly like the way her foot goes into the front seat of her car in front of her husband and of course her wet fingers visible at the end.

Does anyone else know of any other good Hotwife scenes from Hollywood films?

Serge Birault

I stumbled across this fantastic illustration by Serge Birault, that really appealed to my hotwife fantasies. Also helped by the fact that she is wearing a very similar outfit to one an ex of mine wore as she she fucked a friend of mine. Click on the image to enlarge it, she is worth it.